It was a moment I hope to never forget, it was so beautiful
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Well...about a week later, her class started a section on families.
The teacher wanted to share something about adoption with the class and when I asked Ravenna what she wanted the class to know she frowned and said, "I don't want ton tell them anything Mama."
Her teacher was wonderful and we talked through some of what has been coming up for Ravenna. Instead of family trees they made adorable family gardens
Her garden with 6 flowers for our family of 5 now sits where she lovingly placed in on our mantle.
But she kept mentioning wanting to make a family tree,
and I kept trying to figure out how to honor Ravenna's whole story in that family tree.
What does it look like when there is a birth family, a foster family and all of her immediate family now?
Which thing goes where on the tree?
How do I guide her as to where those things go?
Well...in true Ravenna style, she led me.
She proclaimed one morning, "Mama I want to make a fabric family tree!"
The girl is crazy about fabric. She took a whole box of it all the way to Mexico as her one main toy during our Whatever Project roadtrip and has already started piling some up for when we go this year!
So...we headed off to the fabric deptartment and I stepped back and finally let Ravenna lead. She lovingly and deliberately picked out fabric for everyone. Ladybugs for Georgia, space for Parker, Lighting McQueen for Daddy...and horses, two different horse fabrics. One for her birthmmom and one for her foster mom. She hincluded her birthdad and foster dad as well with dog and buffalo fabric. I was a garden with birds and she sparkly see-through candy canes.
During all of this, she twirled in the aisles, hugging her fabric and saying, "Oh I love this day Mama, I wish it would never end!!!"
We bought a pack of two canvases and she diligently went to work.
I let her decide where and how everything went and it was totally different and far better than if I had forced structure on it.
This is her masterpiece, her family, filled with love- her love for these people in her life:
So, do you see it? the candy cane fabric?
She insisted that she did not want to be a part of the tree. At first I paniced thinking maybe she did not feel like part of the tree or part of the family. I could not be more wrong...
She wanted to be touching everyone. She said, " I love them all Mama!" So if you look closely, that candycane fabric is around and ontop of every piece there.
Then as we were working away, she cutting and placing fabric and I glueing it down, she stopped and said, "Oh no!!!" and ran to her room to get something. She came back with that big striped piece (from her Mexico collection) that is now across the top saying, "Mama, we forgot God and this would be perfect!"
So God gets to hang out all striped and sparkly at the top of our family tree!
She made me the top of the tree flanked with Doug on one side and my mom on the other and she is nestled up close to us.
She then brought it to school, wrapped in more fabric so her special secret would not get out
and proudly showed her class
Showing Daddy over and over again!
"God sets the lonely in families..."